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lilkitty


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My Master is wanting to bring another slave into our relationship, this is something I don't think I can handle and I have told my Master this and he keeps telling me I'm not trusting him and refuses to talk to me about it. Have I done something wrong, am I not pleasing him enough anymore?

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Dear lilkitty. It is impossible for anyone else but your master and yourself to answer this question, but I will try to give you my perspective on such issues. See that I have three heads - one of them is for biting my kitten, the other one is for licking her, and the third one - well that one is for talking to her. That is to say that in any relationship, be it master/kitten or plain vanilla icecream, communication is a key aspect.

You cannot be wrong for having negative emotions, neither can be your master wrong for wanting something. But wants need to be communicated as do fears. This is the only way I know that trust can build. Not by demands and threats. You say that your master refuses to talk to you about the issue and provokes feelings of guilt instead. Therein - is my understanding and experience - lies the problem.

Be brave lilkitty, find honest ways to discuss the matter, may they be difficult, and remember - you are the "cat that walks by herself" and noone can force you to abandom the feline pride you have been graced with.



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Sir and I actually talk about something like that once in awhile as a "what if and what would you do and/or feel" thing. We both know how the other feels about it, though it's good to bring up the question every so often as we grow in our relationship, to see how far our boundaries have gone.
Our answers vary from time to time on that subject, and for us, we pretty much think that it'd be a literal once in a very great while thing if we ever decide to do something like that. If Sir were to decide that he was going to bring in another without even considering my feelings, or taking the time to discuss it with me, I would be wounded beyond belief.

You NEED to get your Owner to talk to you about. About what is to be expected, and just how would the sit up be. Is this new person going to be a permanent fixture? Just weekends? Once in awhile? Why exactly does he want to bring in another? Is it for him, or does he have a desire to see you with another under his control? Would he really bring in another knowing how you feel? Is he willing to risk loosing you if he took this route?

These are all questions you NEED to ask him, and get him to give you real answers. If you're truly feeling like you're doing something wrong, he needs to be the Owner he's suppose to be and listen to you and take into account your feelings. If he's not willing to even listen to you, or discuss the situation further with you, I think you would have your answer right there. Just because you're a pet/sub/slave, it doesn't mean that your feelings are worthless. If he's going to ignore your emotions, then he isn't being the responsible and caring Owner that a kitty like yourself deserves.

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Nekogirl1988


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I would be worried if my Master decided to bring another without first listening to me...

Its very important to be able to comunicate in all cases. With no comunication there is no trust nor love...

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i have mixed views when it comes to this subject, i think humans arnt naturally ment to be monogamistic, i think that from looking at the number of people that cheat and people that are serial monogamists (im talking about just general people not just those in the lifestyle) and of course looking through history theres alot of it as well, however in todays sociaty its something thats looked down on so were made to think its something bad and not right. personally ive found that if you enter a relationship knowing the person is going to sleep with other people its alot easier than if you think its one on one and then find out after and because of my own views on sex, although i dont mind my kitten sleeping with other people and enjoy group activites i would hate her even going on a date with someone else. i dont attach sex and emocation but i do with romantic things such as dates etc and wouldent want her being involved with someone else like that

i do know my views arnt that of most people and tbh i think your owner should talk to you about it and take what you say into consideration, i know i would as even though i think the way i do i would worry about hurting my kitten and that would in turn hurt me

hope that made some sence

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