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joyfulgirl · Member

Collar 24/7 or Necklace with engraving?

kimonokitty · Senior Member

You two should talk about what's best for you.

Me personally, I would want a 24/7 permanent collar such as this..

http://www.bondagecollars.com/

beautiful AND discreet

Temko · Senior Member

realy depends on what you do day-to-day.

for example: my sub was not allowed to carry her necklace/collar (it's a chocker with a locked hearth that she cant take of unles she has hte key (she has access to it in case of emergencies but other then that if she takes it of she gets a damn good spanking.) to work due to higine concerns.

also keep in mind the type of collar. a full-time leather collar with no wiggle room could cause irritation and rashes, metal collars can cause frostbite in winter, etc...

so it's really a call of what collar and "how".

that said: i know of no Dom that doesn't want his/her sub in a collar or other visible ornament that shows their dominance over him/her

janet · Senior Member

Mrow. Well, now you know of one. My ex and I were very switchy. I bought her a necklace with an engraved tag that said "[my name]'s" but the original message I was considering was actually less owner-y (I wanted to put "Perpetual Motion Machine" on it because whenever she smiled and I pointed out how I pretty she was when she smiled, she smiled more, and I called her a perpetual motion machine...but the phrase was too long). I didn't care if she wore the tag inside her shirt or whatever. It wasn't the visibility aspect I was interested in. It was just supposed to be a reminder to her that there was someone out there who cared for her.

So that said, I'm personally a fan of the necklace route. Most of the material-based collars I've seen aren't very durable (the beautiful pink velvet one my ex got for me is on its last legs) and yeah, Temko made a good point in that a metal collar in winter would be horrid (more of an issue for me here in Canada than for someone who lives in the deep south, I suppose). And although I like how collars look during play, I just think a necklace can be a lot more beautiful for day to day.

BUT! Rant over, does your master have a preference?

Faete · Senior Member

Whatever YOU BOTH like best!

lol.

Master bought me a silver collar in lieu of a wedding band when we got married. It closes with a special screw so I can't remove it without the key.. And I don't have access to the key. He had to remove it for me once because I needed xrays, but we put it back on right after.

I've also known lots of submissives who get leather collars, or necklaces, or nothing at all.

Saberrah · Senior Member

Hmm...another option is to get a choker with a cute tag on it. That way it has the feel of a collar and still is very public acceptable.

MissAbsinthe · Senior Member

You could try both and see which you are more comfortable in :3

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

I love my collar, I never take it off, unless I'm at work or taking a bath. A lot of times I forget that I even have it on, until I hear my bell jingle. This is the collar that I have: http://www.bdsmstore.com/productcart/pc/product256.asp it's really simple and doesn't draw a lot of attention. My ears do that =^.^=

Kitten · Senior Member

have you asked your Master? i think he should have a say in it as you are his

Tygra · Senior Member

You could also try

Custom Collars

Lolita Kisama

Just because we're in a BDSM relationship doesn't mean we "have" to wear a real collar, we could wear just a simple necklace or something as tasteful- as long as there's a meaning behind it between sub and Dom.

It also depends on how comfortable you would be having people stare at you in your collar- and believe me, people WILL stare!

But ultimately it's a matter of compromise between sub & Dom.

-- Edited by Tygra at 04:53, 2009-01-06

kimonokitty · Senior Member

I couldn't think where else to put this, but since this is the most recent collar thread... it's going here!!

Look at these cute little tags that chaotic creations is making now.

How precious!!

http://www.bondagecollars.com/tags1-2.jpg

(of course, I want the skull/crossbones mua ha ha...death kitty)

-- Edited by kimonokitty at 14:41, 2009-01-06

tigrenpanthera · Senior Member

tygra, those lolita collars are adorable! when i get the moneys, i might try and get one....

Temko · Senior Member

god that name makes me wince.

lolita kisama? that so does not fit fit together language wise.

though they have a great collection. for anyone who's into lolita and bdsm (or kuro/gothic lolita, EGL or aristocrat lolita - that site is awsome :P)

kimonokitty · Senior Member

Temko wrote:
though they have a great collection. for anyone who's into lolita and bdsm (or kuro/gothic lolita, EGL or aristocrat lolita - that site is awsome :P)

mmmm.... yes I am!!

btw... I've not heard of kuro. Is it anything like guro? (one of my favorites, yet I haven't gotten to play with yet)
(there are so many sects to the lolita style fashion, I so cannot keep up)

Temko · Senior Member

er.. Guro and Kuro have nothing to do with one another.

Guro lolita: https://i123.photobucket.com/albums/o316/KyraVarney/GURO3.jpg
Kuro lolita: http://gothragdoll.deviantart.com/art/Kuro-lolita-86064192

kuro lolita is literaly "black lolita" usualy found hand in hand with shiro (white) lolita.

also commonly interchangable with elegant gothic lolita (EGL) or aristocrat gothic

and wile i know very litle about the actual lolita fastion, and whatnot i know what i like looking at on the wife :P

Tygra · Senior Member

Tygra wrote:
You could also try

Custom Collars

Lolita Kisama

Just because we're in a BDSM relationship doesn't mean we "have" to wear a real collar, we could wear just a simple necklace or something as tasteful- as long as there's a meaning behind it between sub and Dom.

It also depends on how comfortable you would be having people stare at you in your collar- and believe me, people WILL stare!

But ultimately it's a matter of compromise between sub & Dom.

Someone suggested TieMeUp: wearable lifestyle jewellery, it has many lovely collar/necklaces I'd love to wear myself!
Ahhh the many options!

-- Edited by Tygra at 16:54, 2009-01-15

kimonokitty · Senior Member

oooh... they DO have some really lovely things!

good call, Tygra