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Sui Juris Cattus · Guru

RE: Affection, is it really that hard?

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

Well, I'm not sure if it's an improvment, but I'm no longer a kitty. I'm a fox now! Yeah! Fer serious! I'm excited to be a fox ^-^

kimonokitty · Senior Member

Does this mean the puppies can chase you now? :)

Sui Juris Cattus · Guru

Release the hoooouuuuuuunnnds! *snicker*

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

*yips and runs into some tall weeds hopeing the puppies won't find her*

faery · Veteran Member

I read the whole topic and it's a few weeks later, so how's the situation now?

And now for the advice part (because I am going to do that now ;)). You sound remarkably like me when I was your age (and mind you, if I saw it correctly I'm only 3 years older ;)) I also had a boyfriend I loved a lot (or so I thought). He was relatively new in bdsm as well, but that part of our relationship went pretty well, but he also lacked in the affection-part, especially after we had a fight: he would then not hug me for a week, and I would not be allowed to cuddle up to him in bed and such.
I gave up a lot for him, hoping it would get better, knowing it would get better even, because he loved me, and I loved him. I tricked myself into believing that, although the relationship was quite bad for me. I forgot who I was.

I sense some of that in your situation too. I'm not saying you should break up with him, but I do think you should take a little space of your own, so you can think what you want and where you boundries are regarding him and the relationship, and be firm in those. Be exremely clear in what you want and need, and if he can't provide that, you should really think about going on without him. You are young, and although you might not believe that now, becausee it probably doesn't feel like that: there will be someone (maybe even multiple someones) who -can- give you what you need.

*gives a strength-cookie*

Sorry for this monologue, which maybe sounds too much like "I am older than you, so I know better" (and I know how much I hate that myself), but I can relate to you so much, and I regret so much myself that I did not step out of that relationship earlier...

wingless · Veteran Member

i hope its all alot better now but i will add my views as ive just joined XD

im personally a fan of affection so my kitten gets lot of it, love cuddles and kissing her and her nose, love touching her nose with my finger and watching her trying to bite it, stroking, tickeling, playing with her and her cat toys and im sure theres more but ive only just woken lol :)

kimonokitty · Senior Member

Has anybody even heard from kisa-chan lately? I wonder how she's doing.

*misses kisa-chan*

janet · Senior Member

Kitties seem to go missing from this site a lot :( *mews and calls the fire department*

Joli Minou · Senior Member

I think she posted somethin' somewheres a long time ago about not returning to the forum until she got things straightened out with said douchebag. >.>

StrippedKitten · Member

After reading this, I really dont get it. Maybe its just me and the guy has serious issues but I just cant imagine anyone so... troubled (couldnt think of a better word) that they cant atleast pet or scritch or something their pet, even if the pet is human. I mean I like games too, but that doesnt stop me from knowing that they arnt as important as a pet. A game you can stop and save and play later, people need love and attention.

Maybe for starters he could have a day for games and a day for Kisa. Maybe she should direct him, kinda tell him what to do for starters (How he cant figure it out from there is beyond me.)

Tom cat owner · Member

All i could really say to do for this is lead your owner, nuzzle him and rub against him and tell him what you need.