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Jage · Member

What's your favorite way to reward your sub?

Jackalkat · Veteran Member

I reward puppyboyz with playtime and presents...

Playtime can be anything like tossin a tennis ball around to playin 2 player on his favorite video game. get creative and if need be ask him what he wants for treats!

presents can be doggy toys, "sex" toys, treats, and regular everyday gifts...

have fun with it... its all about fun and creativity anyways, right?

Jackal

Jynx Darkitten · Senior Member

well for rewards my mistress devi leashes me and drags me around and treats me exactly like a kitten with snugs hugs and the nibbles on my ear so mabye this could be aplyed to you?

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

I don't get rewarded.... I wish I did. I try to do good things for Master, but he doesn't notice, even a thank you once and a while is a good reward. Or maybe a pat on the head. I guess I just have to pet myself.

Sui Juris Cattus · Guru

Kisa, I've got three words for you.

Flee
In
Terror

I know you don't want to, but man, if your Master can't even manage to say "thanks" once in a while.... oy

Tygra · Senior Member

Sui Juris Cattus wrote:
Kisa, I've got three words for you.

Flee
In
Terror

I know you don't want to, but man, if your Master can't even manage to say "thanks" once in a while.... oy

We've all told you what we think.
And changing from kitty to fox won't change the situation, dear.
Learn to be selfish, seek what you need & the person willing to give it to you.
Don't give in, don't give up!

janet · Senior Member

*hisses softly at kisa-chan's master before turning her back on him and pouncing on kisa*

KITTENPETS! *jumps on kisa's head and pats it madly*

Matt-Sama · Veteran Member

The best thing you can do to reward a pet is to know what they really love more than anything and give it to them. Pets are always good, cuddles are good, special...erm...treats. Its all up to what you find your pet loving and wanting. better than anything. just say. "You've been such a good pet tonight. What would you like as a reward?" Sure its cheezy, sure its kinda weird, but until you really know good ways to really reward your pet instinctively its best to just ask.

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

I know, I know my situation is not the best, but I just really love Master and I want to make things better for us

Tygra · Senior Member

kisa-chan wrote:
I know, I know my situation is not the best, but I just really love Master and I want to make things better for us

A relationship is between TWO people.
Only one making an effort is not enough~!

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

*hides behind a log putting her tail over her face* I know, I just don't know what to. I've told him how I feel, and the things I need from him, but he just doesn't listen to me. He won't change, but I dunno, I will try again and let you all know

Saberrah · Senior Member

Kisa-chan...the first thing you need to remember when in a relationship - don't try to change them, because it won't happen. If he changes, it's got to be because that's what he wants. It honestly does not sound like he's gonna change, and it's not fair or right or anything for you to try to change yourself to fit him. It sounds to me that you can do a complete 180 in your personality and still he'd rather keep to himself and play his games.
You're too cute and adorable and deserving to be treasured to put up with that. You deserve better! You need someone whom you can respect and who'll respect and care for you. What you need to do is say buy to this guy. Maybe he'll wake up when he realizes that he's lost you, I dunno. But you need to think about you and what you deserve...and he's not it.
He's emotionally abusing you hun.....and you don't have to take that. The only one who's gonna change things is you....You need to make the decision to move on, and it will be hard at first, but you know what? You've got tons of friends here who will do everything they can to help you through it. Never settle, demand better. You DESERVE so much more.

Tygra · Senior Member

Saberrah wrote:
Kisa-chan...the first thing you need to remember when in a relationship - don't try to change them, because it won't happen. If he changes, it's got to be because that's what he wants. It honestly does not sound like he's gonna change, and it's not fair or right or anything for you to try to change yourself to fit him. It sounds to me that you can do a complete 180 in your personality and still he'd rather keep to himself and play his games.
You're too cute and adorable and deserving to be treasured to put up with that. You deserve better! You need someone whom you can respect and who'll respect and care for you. What you need to do is say buy to this guy. Maybe he'll wake up when he realizes that he's lost you, I dunno. But you need to think about you and what you deserve...and he's not it.
He's emotionally abusing you hun.....and you don't have to take that. The only one who's gonna change things is you....You need to make the decision to move on, and it will be hard at first, but you know what? You've got tons of friends here who will do everything they can to help you through it. Never settle, demand better. You DESERVE so much more.

I totally agree!
And this is what all of us have been telling you constantly.
Please listen!

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

*tears up* I know.... I know Master isn't good to me, but I can't leave him. He is too special to me. He saved me. I was on my deathbed ready to die. I was trash but he still loved me. I can't just leave him. I have one more idea to try

Sui Juris Cattus · Guru

Sounds like he rescued you so he could abuse you.

No one at this point can say you haven't given it your all. Now its time to let go.

kimonokitty · Senior Member

There are no more ideas. It is simple:
This is what I need. Are you willing to give it to me?
That is all that needs to be said. No games. No ideas.
Simple conversation. I need this, if you don't want to give it to me, I'm going to go find it.
Let him answer the question bluntly. Do not let him answer the question any way BUT bluntly.

Do you want to give me what I need?

Period. It's time to rescue yourself. You have friends here to help you through the tough times, but you have to be willing to stand up and take life on your own shoulders. You may not feel strong enough to carry that burden right now, but you have friends to help give you strength.

Trust me. The pain eases with time (and catnip!... or chickens!)

*********

*grin* This thread has gone way off track

My favorite reward that I receive is "good girl". Master's pride is the best reward I could get.

Matt-Sama · Veteran Member

oo yes yes yes... good girl. I forgot that one. When a pet does good, you have to say good girl. Make her feel good about doing a good job for her master!!

kisa-chan · Veteran Member

I think, if I was a Master, I would make sure to pet my kitty/fox/puppy/pony all the time and give him/her treats and cuddles and all kinds of love =^_^=

imissmanny · Senior Member

I get rewarded with chocolate :3 I love chocolate.... Today I was rewarded with pets for like an hour though :D. I fell asleep :P

Rasari · Member

Oppa rewards me by doing random special treats. Like a massage... Or taking me shopping. Or randomly buying something for me while we're out. Or taking me out for steak or sushi. Or stopping in on his lunch break to bring me a snack, like French fries (a favorite of mine).

Rewards should be things that are not quite routine. Hugs, kisses and such should be routine (impo).

janet · Senior Member

But that's the beauty of the human (hu-kitten) brain, Rasari. My ex pretty much spoiled me rotten so when birthdays came around, well, I'd just continue to get spoiled rotten, but it'd be passed off as a birthday present. And my brain bought it and it felt special. Reward pettingks, even if they're physically the same as regular pettingks, somehow still feel better.

Tom cat owner · Member

I call my kitten her favorite pet names or give her leash an approving tug when she does good.

tigerkitten · Member

i love to hear what a good girl i have been as a reward, but a piece of chocolate being handed to me just because my Sir thinks of me makes me feel loved too.

Anabelle · Senior Member

tigerkitten wrote:

i love to hear what a good girl i have been as a reward, but a piece of chocolate being handed to me just because my Sir thinks of me makes me feel loved too.

I agree -- verbal praise, even though it doesnt seem too big, really makes a difference (speaking as receiving and giving it)

StripedKitten · Veteran Member

Verbal praise, little treats and what not...

Is sex a bad reward?

MastersKitten · Senior Member

StripedKitten wrote:
Is sex a bad reward?

I certainly don't think so. :P

StripedKitten · Veteran Member

MastersKitten wrote:

StripedKitten wrote:
Is sex a bad reward?

I certainly don't think so. :P

lol well thats good, I just wasnt sure if some people didnt have that kind of system/relationship with their pets.

Temko · Senior Member

sex works, but sex as a reward is often misused... so be carefull how ye use it.

i've used sex as a reward on occasion, and it's completly different then when i claim her body :P

Mostly for myself and my kitty rewards range from pets, hugs, scratching, bathing, combing, washing all the way to all inc. sauna-womenly-whatever-they-do-in-there-spa thing days.

MastersKitten · Senior Member

Mew. My reward sex is getting to choose how I want it. It's not a very common reward for me (I get to choose maybe once or twice a month.) Being his slave, I don't get to have much say in how and when we have sex so its nice to get to choose every now and then. ^-^

StripedKitten · Veteran Member

Awww, I like my kitties to have a nice say in things. I like to have there opinions and then add. Mostly I get "Be a dom" and thats all then I have to throw my spin on everything. Which is ok sometimes, lets me get creative and use my imagination, but I like to be told what to do, some people find that hard.

And I only use reward sex with a few kittens... mostly because it's best reward I know how to give.

MastersKitten · Senior Member

Teehee. Speaking of rewards, Master asked me last night if I'd like a reward. The catch is, I have to wait until we go on vacation in 12 days. So I have 12 days to think of a reward. o:

StripedKitten · Veteran Member

MastersKitten wrote:

Teehee. Speaking of rewards, Master asked me last night if I'd like a reward. The catch is, I have to wait until we go on vacation in 12 days. So I have 12 days to think of a reward. o:

*Rolls around* New postion? XD

MastersKitten · Senior Member

I was thinking something more elaborate. :P