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Fenix · Veteran Member

Lost stray...

Joli Minou · Senior Member

Oh, sweetie... :( *nuzzles and curls up next to*

MastersKitten · Senior Member

Aww doll what happened? *paws at you*

Fenix · Veteran Member

he decided to be with someone else

Fenix · Veteran Member

I wish this didn't hurt so much :(

janet · Senior Member

Mewmewmew...*curls up on Fenix's other side and presses close*

MastersKitten · Senior Member

Honey, if he could leave you that quick for someone else, he wasn't worth it anyway. Don't let his stupidity get the best of you. Don't let him win. You'll find the right owner that will care about you and love you. *offers soothing catnip tea and cuddles*

-- Edited by MastersKitten on Saturday 23rd of May 2009 12:03:46 AM

Fenix · Veteran Member

<3 I hope so =/

DaddysTouch · Veteran Member

Aww hun *hugs* It'll get better and you'll find Mr. Right sooner or later.

MamaJarly · Member

everything will be alright, fenix. it'll get better. I promise that it will. *hugs tightly* I know that I don't know your situation, but I do know that time does heal all things. and you'll heal and move on and find someone else. someone worthy of you this time. *smiles* and in the mean time, you've got friends here who'll look after you and give you comfort when you need it.

tigrenpanthera · Senior Member

don't worry about it, darling. boys will be boys (sorry boys) and a lot of them... well, they're like lava lamps: nice to look at, but not too bright.

you deserve someone who can give you what you want, who will be the right person FOR YOU. and he won't leave you. you'll keep on surprising him with how wonderful you truly are.

if i can tell my story, my bf of 14 months broke up with me a week after valentine's day, then started dating someone not 2 weeks later. i realized while i was in therapy that he was not worth my time, effort, money, or affection. he was emotionally abusive, and always insisted on putting his problems first, and couldn't STAND that i was dealing with my depression instead of his family and money issues. he complained about everything i did, and was generally an ungrateful jerk.

and despite him being my first love, i've moved on. i've had a lot of help, but it's truly ok to move on. experiment. you're still young, lovely, and you can do anything! you don't have a man to tie you down, but if you're patient, you'll find someone to let you be their lap cat or their little lioness or whatever you want. and they'll love it. and you'll both be happy.

i believe everyone has the ability to find that person (or those people) if they're patient enough.

in order to be loved, you must first love yourself. do that, and you'll have all the boys (and probably some girls) all lined up outside your door! and if the jerk who didn't realize what a gem you are is in that line, you can look at him, flash a smile, and say "next!"

darling, i promise you'll be happy. i know it hurts now, but it's safe to move on whenever you're ready.

-- Edited by tigrenpanthera on Tuesday 26th of May 2009 04:48:56 AM

Temko · Senior Member

oi, i suck in these things but here goes

dont moarn that which is lost, find something new to love.

...er, i think thats the gist of it.

if he left ye? so what, check to make sure why he left and move on. dont remain in the past, so you're heartbroken? please dont tell me you didn't see it coming from a mile away.
if ye didn't then truly you/he were not involved in a active relationship.

..geh.. er... like i said, i suck at this so figure out what went wrong between ye two and move on to something better.

Fenix · Veteran Member

I <3 everyone for the support *cuddles* and all of you are right and have good input/advice. I truly appreciate it

as for you Temko, (after reading tons of posts and seeing many of yours also) I realize you mean the best. As for seeing it coming, of course....still doesn't stop it from hurting...alot. you are right though and I should move on

the thing that was wrong between us was distance *shrugs* I am not blaming him and I am not upset with him. I understand what he did and why he did it...and because of those decisions saw a side that I didn't like as much and that would have caused alot of conflict in the future anyways. so all in all it was better for the both of us I think

MastersKitten · Senior Member

It's good that you can push past your emotions and see the truth of it all. A close friend and ex-play partner came crying to me a 5am yesterday morning to say she got a call from another friend. Her boyfriend of 3 years had told her friend that he was done with her. It was out of nowhere, much like yours. But she believes everything happens for a reason. Although she is hurting (I mean.. it was 3 years of her life) she is already moving on. I also know of someone who is interested in her that has been asking me how she would react. (I've never had anyone ask my permission to date one of my friends before o.o;) But my advice to him and you is give it time. Don't rush into another relationship trying to find a place to belong or where you feel needed. Take some time for YOU and get everything sorted out. This may be a good time for you (if you haven't already) to make a list of things you would like and wouldn't like in a relationship. It could also be beneficial to make a list of all the positive things about yourself to make you feel better. :)

Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm still sick. :(

Fenix · Veteran Member

it did make sense, and I hope you feel better soon <3

StrippedKitten · Member

Well... this is my first post.. ever.. and I just want to say that it will get better. These things suck really bad... but the trick is to know that there will be someone out there waiting for you and hoping that they will make you feel better.

v_v hope I help.

Jynx Darkitten · Senior Member

*nuzzles fenix gently* im really sorry i know what it is like to loose somone you loved but you will find somone else trust me i am a good example i found somone really nice and it took me two things of hell to do it so dont sit around being sad about it go out there and find a new man or women whatever you like its your life take control of it and mold it to what you want