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Miss_Mew · Veteran Member

Can a kitten be 'successfully' owned from a distance?

MasterMorhion · Veteran Member

The answer is 'yes'. Though to completly own a kitten, would of course eventually require the owner and kitten to live together or a more permanent arrangement. As someone who is going through such a thing myself, to make something like that work, as personal contact as possible is required. (Phone, webcam, texting, etc) Anything that can help make such a large distance as close and personal as possible. A strong connection and willingness to try such a difficult task, and eventually meeting, and spending time together even if it is only a few days. These things are important as they help strengthen and re-establish bonds that can pull apart or grow strained over time.

-- Edited by MasterMorhion at 00:01, 2008-08-19

Miss_Mew · Veteran Member

^ Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience on this topic as I know it's close to your heart and Usoa's. ...

For a neophyte it's a lot to wrap my head around...for sure.

*feels her tummy grumble...and looks around intently with hopes of finding a rogue kitty treat that might be hidden under the couch...*

Jackalkat · Veteran Member

I have to agree with Mstr. M. As a switch ive both been an online pet and an online owner and it will work well as long as a true commitment is there. That being said there are a few obvious and not so obvious things that need to be said...

First the obvious.

Try and keep the time zones somewhat reasonable. If you live 6-10 hours away from someone its gonna be hard to chat let alone set up trips to visit. Sometimes triage of potential owners is a neccecary evil.

Dont attach yourself immediately. Duh... dissapointment sucks, it takes time to really get to know someone from a distance or online.

Listen to other pets and Owners that you trust. Sometimes a quick "background check" saves months of time and effort that ends up going no where anyways

now the not so obvious

relax. Owning and being a pet is about the simplest things like respect, trust, care, playtime and a willingness to learn. Its really hard to be a bad pet from a distance as longs as your into it for these reasons. That carries over anywhere... not just the home.

If ya get to the point that you want to meet your owner, go as yourself first and a pet second. two people meeting for the first time AS people allow for a really open and honest first physical exchange. You can always let yourself go into "pet mode" whenever you want, when your comfortable.

Do what you want at first THEN learn from your owner. Be yourself... When you build a pet/Owner relationship He/She will work with ya to learn what He/She likes.

The most important thing is to have fun and know that long distance petplay is the safest because you can always log off or hang up and you WILL build a great network of friends that can help ya along the way. Have fun and good luck!

Jackal

Miss_Mew · Veteran Member

Great advice! Thank you so much for sharing it.

*offers an upward nod as she licks her top lip in thanks*

luannablue · Veteran Member

(note befor posting i cant spell or type to save my life. just kleep this in mind lol)
M: yes it would be posable.
BUT it would need a level of trust much grater then any that would be needed living in the house.
granted this is a given but people never seam to think about it untill its too late. or at least thats what i have gathered from talking to people.
even in a "normal" LDR you need to beable to trust the other person as much if not more then yourself and the other person neds to feel the same. just look at how the "normal" LDR turn out.
id say maybe at most 1 out of 30 realy make it to the point of being together.
now on top of that ad in the master/pet. witch needs even more trust then the said "normal" releationships.
keep in mind this is all imo.
(will add more as i think of it)

Miss_Mew · Veteran Member

thank you for posting on this topic.. one I'm definitely still curious about..

MissAbsinthe · Senior Member

I'm living it right now, I'd say it's not impossible, but certainly not easy.
Distance sucks no two ways about it, physical contact is such a marvelous thing, but often in this day and age we are separated by work commitments, families and you know...sea.
If your love it strong enough, then you will be able to hold up a distance relationship, however if you have been living together before and are now separated for whatever reason, then you can expect stress, tension and fights. Obviously with that said it also depends on the couple, some are more laid back than others. (Mine is like a rollercoaster right now! ) We just fight about things that we'd never even think about fighting about if we were in the same room together!
However for some people who have not met before (i.e an internet relationship) it can be much easier to cope with.
So to sum up, it all depends in the individuals involved, their situation and outside factors that might affect the relationship.

petoblivion · Veteran Member

I think it's not necessarily that much harder than a regular LDR. My master and I live about a 5 hour drive from each other most of the time, so I only get to see him once or twice a month. It means that a lot of times we connect mostly online and by phone, but so long as the connection is still there it's possible.

Masters Touch · Member

It can be a strain but yes I think its possible though without the close contact there can be times where misunderstandings can occur.

Calico Bel · Veteran Member

I say it absolutely can be done. My Master and I are currently in a long-distance relationship due to the fact that he's in the army and stationed elsewhere. :( Of course, I'll be marrying him in December, and moving in with him.

We've managed to make the long-distance thing work out great for us. First off, we have set rules that I am to follow, even if he's not here to enforce them. I am required to eat 2 meals a day, try for 3, because I struggle with forgetting meals. I have a curfew and a bed time. I'm required to wear my collar unless I'm working or in a situation it wouldn't be acceptable (left up to my judgment). On Fridays, I must wear one of his shirts. There are quite a few more, but those are some of the basics. If I break the rules, I have to tell him, and there are set punishments in place for breaking a rule without a good reason. And I do always tell him. We talk on the phone every night, even if only for a few minutes because one or both of us are exhausted. He is very actively involved in my life, wants to know everything that goes on during the day, and we constantly talk about rules, and adapt them for situations.

I'd have to say communication is THE most important part of a long-distance relationship. You have to talk about rules, about punishments, and you have to be honest with each other.