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I'm not sure if this post is mute, but with 0 replies I thought I would explain my view. From start to finish my technique changes, during the start I traditionally am guiding, giving a free voice. This does two things; 1: it gives them the feeling that your walking the path with them. 2: It builds the trust comfort and love. The best way I can describe it is if you put a frog in a boiling pot of water he will jump out, put the same frog in a pot of luke warm water and slowly heat it he will be still and literally cook to death. I'm not suggesting you cook your kitty! But it's very much take the cautious approach till THEY say there ready to move forward. At this time I add structure I add rules and formalities, but with a loving heart and warm words, again this does 2 things; 1: it instills the confidence in the pet that they can trust and have faith in you 2: it gives them the opportunity to adjust without getting punished for a mixup. After this step it's a mix of forward and backward testing the boundries of trust and building on them. The overall goal is to have complete control, BUT with that control you need the responcibility and maturity to not abuse or misuse that control. Make sure that you are submissive as a Dom to your pets happiness. Without that sacrifice on your part the pet will not survive as a healthy pet. You must be stronger than yourself as a dom and truly know your limits and that of your pet. Don't forget to constantly reward! =^.^= look at me I sound so serious!! But no really ill eat your soul if you don't cherish and love your pet! :3 kthxbai